Ep.088 | How to Succeed in Life: 10 Tips for Achieving Your Goals

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Welcome, everybody. Welcome back to another episode of the Motivate Grind Succeed podcast, the show that has the goal of giving you practical tips with every single episode in the four foundation of Cornerstone faith, Fitness, Finance and Fellowship Guide. If you're new to the show, welcome and I know you're going to get a ton of value from this week's episode. And if you're returning, welcome back. I missed all you guys.

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Welcome back to the show, guys. Thanks for coming back. Quick saver, though, to everyone who is listening. Whether you are new or you are returning. If at any point in time in this episode you get some value, I ask that you share this episode with somebody, just one person, so that we can go ahead and share this wonderful wealth of knowledge with everybody that we know.

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So with all that housekeeping out of the way, guys, we are going to get into this week's episode and I'm not sure where I'm going to tie it, but right now the placeholder title that I have is Ten Facts that You Need to Understand About Life. And since we have ten facts, I'm going to go through these kind of quick so that way we can go ahead and get through all these facts. So without any further ado, we're going to start off with fact number one, and that is that unproductive days can turn into unproductive years. Have you ever found that when you're usually doing whatever it is that you're doing, it could be anything. You're starting off something new, you're starting off a new diet or you're working out or anything like that, right.

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The hardest thing for you to do is first of all to start. But after you start, you find that the hardest thing for you. Then after you get into this routine is sometimes to stop or take a break. What you have to realize is if you take a break just that one day, that one day you want to take a break and say, you know what, I'm done for today. I need to take a break.

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It becomes easier and easier and easier every single time. Notice that when you're working out and some days you don't feel like going and working out, some days you're going to go to the gym and this one day, this one day just like, I just don't want to go. I really don't want to go. And so you don't go. Then what happens?

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The next day becomes even easier to make an excuse of why you didn't go. And the next day becomes even easier and the next thing you know, you'll be like, oh, man, it's been like three years since I've been in the gym, man, it's been a long time. Unproductive days can turn into unproductive years. How do we battle that? Simple.

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You do what you gotta do through simple discipline, not motivation. Simple discipline. Number two, don't sleep on taking a walk that one's pretty simple. Basically just get up and move, guys. That's the fact you understand about life.

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Human bodies were made to move. We need to move. We were not made to be sedentary and sitting at a desk job for 8 hours a day and then go home at your 30 minutes commute and then sit again to eat food and then get up to go to bed, to then lay down and then watch TV and then that's it. And then you wake up the next day to stand up, to walk to your shower, to then go sit in your car, to then commute, to then go sit in your desk. Like that's too much sitting.

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We were made to walk. Do your five to 1010 steps a day because you need to get up and move. Point number three as you become more intelligent or as you get more knowledge and more wisdom, you use less words to get your point across. What do I mean by that? You can say a lot more by saying a lot less.

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Instead of giving this big flaunting story about what you need to say and what people or rather what you think people need to hear, you can say it in like a sentence or two, right? Basically, essentially saying you can get to the point a lot faster and use your words better and more succinctly and more quickly to get your point across, right? You'll see that a lot with the way that I run the episodes, especially as an example. The more that I learn about these things, the more that I'm able to explain them better and the more that I explain these points, the easier it becomes for me to be able to explain those points in the future. So those are me talking.

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Dedicating an entire episode on one topic to being able to succinctly, put it into a sentence or two of the core idea that simply comes with time, with experience, and simply gaining intelligence. So remember that if you find yourself being able to survive things better, that's a sign that you're definitely getting more intelligent and you should be patting yourself on the backs of that. Number four is that great relationships expedite your growth process. We cannot go through this walk of life alone. That's simply impossible as everybody has strengths and weaknesses in different aspects and in different areas of their life because we all have different strengths and different weaknesses and we can complement each other as such.

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We need to find the people that complement us. We need to find the people that are strong in our weaknesses and we need to be the strength in someone else's weaknesses and that's how we help each other to grow and become better in this life that we have to live. We're not siloed, we're not by ourself. We need other people all the time. Regardless of who you think you are, regardless of what you think you believe, regardless of how you feel, we need other people to be able to accomplish great things in this life.

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Number five, people get upset when they cannot manipulate you. And how is it that people go and manipulate you? Well, one of the common ways that people go and manipulate people is through emotional control. If you control somebody's emotions, then you basically have them in your back pocket. You know exactly what words to say, exactly what things to do, what triggering things.

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Get this person a little bit of a frenzy, and then POW, there you go. You got them in your hand. All you have to do is say the running joke that was in school was all you have to do is you could be saying all the type of slurs and things back and forth that you say. But the second somebody says, yo, mama, oh, someone's ready to fight. So you already know you got this person in your back pocket where if you want them to act a fool, all you got to do is just be like, oh, well, yo mama.

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And then now they're ready to act a fool to make a complete idiot of himself, right? So with that in mind, if you don't let people emotionally control you, some people will get a little bit, you know, not visually upset, but internally they'll get a little bit upset, saying, man, I really can't get this person to do what I want them to do. I don't have as much influence on them as I thought I could have, because they don't have emotional control over you. That's very, very, very important. If you get nothing else from this episode, guys, you should definitely get that one.

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And that one, again, can be an episode all by itself. Understanding emotional control and how to get more control over our emotions. And that kind of leads into the next point a little bit, too, and that the smarter you get, the less you get offended. Because once you start learning that, hey, if people can control me emotionally, then that means they have me in their back pocket, and I don't want to be in nobody's back pocket. So because now that you're more intelligent in that past, like, minute that I just gave you that information, now you're going to become less offended, because now you realize, oh, me being offended and me having this response of whatever it might be that is unfavorable is now demonstrating that I have lack of emotional control.

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See, look at that. I just made you smarter. So now you're going to go out in the world and be like, you know, that thing that would offend me doesn't offend me anymore because it doesn't affect me like that. So therefore, now you become less offended, you get less affected, and you become less manipulative, or at least not manipulative. That's the person trying to manipulate you.

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You become less susceptible to manipulation. There we go. Point number seven. When you're unsure, choose the most ambitious path. What do I mean by choosing the most ambitious path?

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Well, simply put it's choose the path that based on your analysis of how things are probably going to turn out, based on the given information you have, which one will yield you the highest ROI or return on investment, which one will get you the furthest towards the goal that you have in life. Whichever path that it is, whenever you're at a crossroads that will give you the most bang for buck air quotes, that is the path you should probably choose. Because granted, if you take the easier path, you're going to naturally more likely have more regrets in the future because you're going to wish and always be thinking about, man, what if I had picked that more ambitious path? What if I had picked the one that was harder, that challenged me more? What kind of skill set would I have right now that will be marketable, that will be able to help other people?

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What if you're going to be asking yourself that? So to prevent that from the start, just choose the more ambitious path you'll be good to go. And what's funny is the next point actually talks about a little bit of what happens when you don't choose the ambitious path. So point number eight is that ambitious? Ambitionless and goalless.

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Individuals love to create drama. Think about that guys. That one doesn't need too much explanation. How many people do you see always just love drama? They always love the the reality TV shows.

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Not going to go naming any cause, you know, I'm not trying to step on too many toes, at least not on this episode. Other episodes are for that. Not this one right now. But how many people do you know that are ambitionless and they're goal less and they tend to be the people that love the most myths. Why is that?

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Because that's the thing. They have no ambition, they have no goal. And so what do they try to do? They have more of a crab mentality. They're trying to make themselves look good based on the reality TV shows that they see.

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Oh, I saw this person cheated on this person on TV with this show and that show and then they did this and they did that. Oh, I would never do that. You're trying to still paint yourself as like the holy saint that could do no wrong. Because again, if you had ambitions and goals that were purposeful and aligned with your strengths that you were given, you wouldn't have time to go watching those reality TV shows and being and talking to other people about stuff that is dramatized. Think about that.

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If you really took the time to fulfill what your purpose was in life, you wouldn't be having time to be discussing a dramatized TV show. That is pretty much made to get eyes on the advertisements in between.

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Promise. Leave it there. Number nine, learn to say no is one of the best words in the English dictionary. Guys, it's so simple, it's succinct, it's a full sentence, and it gets your point across in as few words as possible. Point number three, right?

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So if someone tells you, hey, would you like to do this? No. Why not? Just don't want to. Don't have the time.

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Too busy. Got stuff going on. Other plans? No. Want to go drinking?

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No. Want to go play some video games? No.

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Want to go no. Just simple. It's no. But see, people don't like to hear the word no because it sounds harsh. It sounds rough.

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People don't like the way it sounds. Oh, no is such a harsh word. I was like, no, thank you. Sure. You want to add the thank you?

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Sure, go ahead. Be my guest. But the point is, you let your no be no. Learn to say no because everybody has their own agenda for their life. In everybody else's eyes, to some extent, you are a pawn in their chest game.

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So if you don't say no, you're simply playing into their chess game. This is your life that you're living. Why are you letting somebody else dictate what you're supposed to be doing for your life? Again, last point. I said you have a purpose.

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You helping them. If that doesn't help out your purpose, the answer should be no. Because if you're not doing work on your purpose, they sure ain't going to help you do work on your purpose. They're trying to get their purpose done, and that purpose involves you. So you are sacrificing time from fulfilling your purpose to go help theirs out.

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Now, am I saying don't help people out? That's not what I'm saying. What I'm saying is the people that are the more manipulative individuals that are saying, oh, I need this person to do this, this person, do that, and then help to boost me up and then when it's done, thrown by the wayside. Those people, those ones that are trying to use you as pawns in life's chess game, those are the ones you have to learn how to say no to and let your know me know and walk away. Will you hurt feelings?

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Yes, it does it matter in the grand scheme of life? Not really. Point number ten, you meet the most interesting people when going to your self development journey. I touched on this a little bit before as well when saying that as you're going through this journey, you're going to meet different individuals, different people who are going to have to help you. Strengths and weaknesses, conversation, right?

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You're going to meet some very interesting people. You're going to see some very interesting individuals. You're going to network with some fascinating people. Me just doing this podcast and talking to all these fantastic guests that you've seen that you can check out on the website, which is linked in the episode description, by the way. Cough, cough, sneeze and knees, wink, wink.

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When you see all these people, these people that I'm talking to, these people that I've communicated with beforehand and trying to get them onto the show and scheduling and things, these are people that I guarantee you, if I was just doing nothing all day, just playing video games and whatnot, I would have never met these people ever. I would have never known they existed. But because I'm on the selfimprovement journey, because I'm on the selfdevelopment path, because I'm trying to bring this information to you guys and share this information with as many people as possible through this platform, that is how I'm able to meet these interesting people. And at the same time I'm meeting these interesting people, you guys are also getting about 45 minutes to an hour plus of their time. Completely for free, guys.

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Completely for free. I'm telling you, these guys, these people are absolutely interesting. Some of my conversations before and after with them, and there has not been a single guest that I have not enjoyed talking to. Like, they are all fascinating, interesting people. They all have amazing information that they're able to share.

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And if you want to be able to do the same thing, you have to have to have to be on this selfimprovement development journey. You have to take it serious. You have to put your purpose first. You have to focus on what you were put on this earth to do. If you do so, I guarantee you, you're going to meet some cool people.

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Will it be Elon Musk of the world? Probably not. But I guarantee you, you're going to meet some absolutely fantastic people. Guys, that's what I have for you for this week's episode, guys. Thank you so much for tuning in this week.

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